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Milk Mail/F.A.Q.

Thanks for the fan mail guys (and several gals). I wanted to take this time to answer a few questions from those who are enjoying these sordid tales of my past.


Q: Why, "The Milkman's Baby?"
A: People of a certain age will recall the old joke about 'The Milkman's Baby' - as it turns out, I am the punchline of that old joke.

Q: What is the basic chronology of these stories?
A: They start in 1976 when I was fresh out of high school. 1977 was the Summer I lived with Stu, as well as the late fall and early winter of my time in L.A. 78 through 80 were a kind of free time when I was trying to "find myself". 80 to 84 were my college years (when I spent most of my time with Chris), and after college, a bit more exploration until I met Rick in 1986.

Q: Are all of these stories true?
A: With the exception of one tale I have weaved here, all of these are true stories.

Q: What was it like to be a gay man in the late 70's?
A: It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. Frankly, you needed to be much more discrete than gays and lesbians are today. However, there were major burgeoning gay communities that were blossoming in the larger cities; but if you lived in the suburbs, or small towns, you did best to keep a low profile or pretend that you were straight.

Q: Do you still keep in touch with Andy, Stu and Chris?
A: I have not seen Stu since 1990 - he sends an Xmas card every year and an occasional e-mail. Chris is remarried and I have not seen him since his first wedding. I see Andy often. He is doing well.

Q: Have you ever told Andy, Stu or Chris about this blog?
A: Andy has seen the blog and he likes it. He has told me that he has toyed with the idea of creating a similar sexual electronic memoir, but so far he has not (and that's a shame, because he is the most gifted writer I've ever read). Stu and Chris, to the best of my knowledge, know nothing about this blog.

Q: What ever happened to Rick?
A: We are still together -- twenty years this summer! And yes, he's read the blog.

Q: Why do the pictures that represent Rick bear a startling resemblance to Topher Grace?
A: Because Rick looked like (and still resembles) Topher.

Q: In the Lost in Babylon series you make mention of a certain movie-star. Are you talking about Paul Newman?
A: Maybe. Maybe not.

Q: Did you really turn tricks in Los Angeles?
A: Sadly, this is very true. In retrospect I realise how foolhardy my actions were. But I was very young and very horny. I DO NOT condone anyone taking up that profession lest he or she has a strong spirit and stomach. And even then, I'd strongly urge another path.

Q: With all of your sexual escapades how did you not contract HIV?
A: Dumb fucking luck.

Q: What's up with all the wrestling?
A: Stu, Andy, Chris and I always got together to wrestle as a prelude to sex. It was something that the four of us found really hot (as a form of foreplay), this carried on and has been a fetish of mine since.

Q: Did you and Chris really have an S&M relationship?
A: Our relationship was one fucked up affair. There was a lot of anger, I suspect, on both our parts and so sex was often a very physical and violent affair -- but I do want to stress, it was consensual on both our parts!

Q: Actually, your grammar and writing style is very poor...
A: Sorry about that chief, read something else then; I never claimed to be Faulkner!

Q: The pictures used to illustrate your porn are cool. How do you do make them?
A: Free Internet porn and Paint Shop Pro!